When is it an appropriate time to have sex for the first time in a relationship? Is first date sex bad? Before I answer I’ll tell you my experiences.
I slept with Mr. Flaky on the first date.
I slept with my boyfriend before Collin after a month.
I slept with Collin the second time I met up with him.
As you can see I’m all over the place with how I do but more often than not I am quick to hit the sheets.
Now or Later
Sleeping with someone so quickly I have been prone to what I call ho moments. The moment where I’m like we’ve swapped bodily fluid but I didn’t know that about you? Okaaayyyy.
Do you want to know now? Or later? That is the difference. Truth be known everybody shows their ass eventually. EVERYBODY. You can’t hide your true self. Sometimes in a tiff with my boo I’ll swear I would have known what I was getting myself into before I got into it.
Men on Sex
Men who are looking for sex, are just that. You having sex with him won’t change that. He was fitting to bounce the moment ya’ll met. There is no amount of sparkly personality that will change a man in pussy gathering mode. He either is or he isn’t. This has nothing to do with you. He had designs to bounce from the get go.
And sometimes a man sleeps with a woman and then realizes that no he doesn’t like her that much. And then here’s what usually happens: he likes the sex, he likes the girl, its all good.
Do You Feel Comfortable?
Would you feel comfortable giving your body to a man you will find out later you did not completely know? I do. When I feel comfortable that’s when I sleep with a man. Do I know all of him and his intricacies? No? But do I feel surprised by him as I get to know him? No. I didn’t know all of him, but I got a good feel.
In the beginning when Collin was telling me how he was raised I could tell he held some issues. Now that were months deep in the relationship those issues are no longer vague to me, but very clear. But, again I’m not surprised.
Would I have had a better understanding as to the kind of man he was if I waited to have sex with him? Sure. Only I didn’t feel like waiting. I wanted sex.
My last boyfriend who said he wouldn’t respect any woman he slept with on the first date, we slept together after a month. Funny how the one dude who wouldn’t respect me if I slept with him too early,I didn’t.
Mr. Flaky didn’t give a damn. He was happy to be sexing and my virtue wasn’t tarnished. it was the first time I did that. Damn home dates. FYI, don’t go on home dates, they lead to sex. In my case sweet, wonderful, wall taming, cum inducing, magic stick sex.
Worried About What He’ll Think
A man who will think less of you for something that he did? I can’t have respect for that man. I have faith that the man I’ll attract, that the man I do sleep with is smart enough to know that he’s such a freaking catch that of course I slept with him!
I’m not sleeping with him out of insecurity, I’m sleeping with you because I have deemed you an awesome person, not because I’m so hard up for a lay that I’ll just get in bed with any dude.
Different Takes on the Same Matter
Manslations, What Do Men Really Think of First Date Sex?
Manslations, How Long to Wait for It?
And That’s Why You’re Single, Why is She Holding Off Having Sex with Him?
Black Girls Are Easy, 6 Days or 6 Months: It Doesn’t Matter
