Most of us have dealt with a man who has was dealing with more than one woman but no so forthcoming with that information. A lot of women ask why can’t men just be honest? If he wants to have sex with more than one person just tell a bitch!
Uh-huh.
It used to be that women couldn’t have copious amounts of sex without ostracism now that ostracism has travelled to the men. It’s equal opportunity put down in today’s world. Whore, man whore, low self esteem, slut.
What does it feel like to be deemed lesser for being yourself?
It takes a lot of courage to be ourselves when ourselves is not the norm. When being true to ourselves means taking ridicule and standing apart when all one wants to do is belong is hard. It takes a lot to go against the grain.
And how many of us would do the things that our family, friends and neighbors wouldn’t approve of? How long would it take for us to garner the courage just not give a f$#% and do it anyway?
We are all learning how not to care what people think of us. We are all learning how to free ourselves from our other people’s perceptions that keep us locked in so don’t expect those who stick out to just be themselves at the risk of subjecting themselves to your ostracism.
Those who are different will learn in enough time that we cannot hold ourselves to others standards. We will learn in due time that we have to be ourselves no matter who looks at us funny, call us names because we think differently than others.
People will only tell the truth when they feel comfortable. IF you want the truth you have to create an atmosphere of acceptance and non judgement. ‘Cause the minute you give off the vibe you’re going to bust someone in their ass for telling the truth is the minute the lying and avoidance begins.
